Hi, I am a Mother-Daughter Connoisseur
Hi, I am Yingli
I have been on the path of healing the mother wound and transforming the mother-daughter pain for over 10 years. Now I offer my professional and experiential knowledge to support those daughters who struggle their relationship with their mother, with the aim of healing the little girl who felt unloved, set healthy and effective boundaries, and reclaim your inherent strength in the relationship.
My mother-daughter coaching program combines mother-daughter attachment model, mother-daughter relationship history map, counselling skills and therapy techniques, and tools for boundary setting. These are the tools and knowledges that have allowed me to effectively work with the fundamental nature of the conflict in the mother-daughter relationship, while cultivating self-understanding and compassion in a grounded and empowered way.
I am a trained mother-daughter relationship coach and obtained multitude certification in counselling, coaching, and healing. My training in counselling and mother-daughter coaching allows me to deal with mother-daughter issues effectively in practicing these modalities.
If you would like to find your power and independence, then we could be a good fit and you can get in touch with me to further discuss your coaching and therapeutic needs!
'The mother forms the psychological foundation of the daughter. It would be very hard to be happy and relaxed in life if you do not have a good relationship with your mother.'
I come from a social, cultural, and family background where family conflict, including mother-daughter relationship conflict, was a taboo subject. Growing up, I experienced and witnessed many conflicts and breakdowns in mother-daughter relationships. In healing my own traumas related to the mother wound, I have discovered that I deeply value truth, boundary, and transformation. I believe it is our women’s right to self-care, speak our needs, and be emotionally supported. And not to supress our feelings by harmful generational conditioning and past traumas. As daughters and women, we owe it to ourselves to develop the ability to cherish and appreciate our feelings, wants, desires, and needs, to create a world that is more respectful and friendly to women for us and for the next generation of women. I focus on guiding daughters of healing the mother wound and setting boundaries because I found this to be the greatest missing piece in many women’s healing journey. No matter how much other personal growth or spiritual work you do, none of it will be long-lasting or truly effective until you address your issues with your mother. I think it is time we get to the root of the causes of our inner conflict and transform the generational mother-daughter pain.
To daughters, the mother wound refers to the feeling of not being loved by her mother which causes emotional pain. It is to do with a loss or a lack of mothering, it is the pattern passed down through generations. Daughters with a mother wound often can identity a range of symptoms such as:
⇨ Low self-worth, and feeling of unworthiness to have a positive relationship
⇨ “Perfectionist” and “High Achiever” personality, always trying to do better or to be perfect in order to gain her mother’s approval and acceptance
⇨ Feeling emotionally responsible for her mother, having to protect, care for or shelter her mother rather than receiving her mother’s protection and care.
⇨ Difficulties in relating to women on an emotional level in general, especially with older women, or women who are seen as having authority.
Having an unhealed mother wound can affect all aspects of a daughter' lives, most importantly codependency patterns and unhealthy boundaries in relationships.
Why is crucial for daughters to set boundaries?
'Setting boundaries promote deep connections, while lack of boundaries creates resentment.'
Most daughters who grow up in unhealthy families do not know that they have the right to say no and are terrified of the consequences of saying no. Because what they've been taught is that setting limits and boundaries leads to separation. This is a fundamental misunderstanding of boundaries. True boundaries allow us to be ourselves and responsible in a relationship without feeling resentful, which in turn strengthens the intimacy of a relationship.
Daughters whose mothers are narcissistic, overly anxious, controlling, or neglect, betray and batter, know very little about boundary. That is because your individuality is not encouraged and respected, your needs are not met, and your voice is not heard. Instead, you may have learned to take responsibility for your mother and her wellbeing, this creates latent feelings of resentment and emotional depletion.
I created this mother-daughter coaching program based on mother-daughter attachment training and my personal journey. The program is divided into three phases, each consisting of three sessions. If you want to know more, please contact me for more information.
Phase 1: Awareness
Session 1: Tell Your Story
Session 2: Mother-Daughter Relationship History Map 1
Session 3: Mother-Daughter Relationship History Map 2
Phase 2: Expression
Session 4: Deal with Toxic Guilt
Session 5: Your Attitude Towards Having Needs
Session 6: Establish Healthy Boundaries
Session 7: Speak Up for Yourself & Your Needs
Session 8: Self-forgiveness
Session 9: Making Your Rules & Be a Boundaried Daughter
Below are the Coaching Outcomes that comes with this mother-daughter program: ✔ It helps you understand and uncover the underlying causes for your mother-daughter conflict
✔ It helps you change the pattern of self-neglect and reclaim your innate power
✔ It helps you reclaim your authentic voice - speak your thoughts, feelings, needs and wants without guilt
✔ It helps you set healthy and effective boundaries with your mother
✔ It helps you create a roadmap for female emotional empowerment and rewrite generational patterns
✔ It helps you achieve your personal, relationship and career goals
✔ Someone who is determined to change and committed to self-love
✔ Someone who has developed some psychological mindedness
✔ Someone who understands the importance of self-responsbility
✔ Someone who is willing to put efforts into the therapy work and take needed action
No, they do not. I only offer these sessions for daughters 1:1 individually. My programe is neither for the mother, or for mother and mother as a couple.
The goal is to help you build better boundaries, and regain greater wellbeing and power in your relationship with your mother. And to do that, you are better off going into therapy alone than getting into power struggle with your mother.
You can trust me that you are able to make the change without your mum being in the session with you.
Each session lasts 60 minutes. Because I have a waiting list so I can only offer 9 mother-daughter sessions in total.
After our initial consultation in which we discover what is casuing conflict and what your therapetuic goals are, I would like to see you weekly for the first 3 weeks. Weekly sessions are important because it gets the therapy going and kick-starts the required changes. Thereafter, you can choose to come every second week becasue you may need more time between sessions to process the materials or to complete your homework.
Yes, they are different. Mother-daughter coaching is completely focused on your mother-daughter issues, so it is more goal-oriented. Like other coaching sessions, it requires more action on your part to get the results you want.
The tools I use are specifically for mother-daughter issues, for example, a mother-daughter history map from mother-daughter attachment model will not be used in my counseling sessions, nor will the method of setting boundaries, and some exercises and homework are specific to mother-daughter sessions.
You can email me to book your initial consultation. We will schedule a time to discuss your coaching needs and goals. From there, we decide what your next steps are, such as, the frequency of sessions, which package might suit you etc.
In our initial session, you and I can get a sense of whether we would be a good fit to work together by having the conversation.
A Single 60 Minutes Session
If you want to experience a 60 minute mother-daughter relationship coaching session, please book it here.
If you have a specific mother-daughter topic you'd like to discuss and work on, a single session will also suit you.
Every three sessions represents the completion of a phase, so I recommend that you complete each phase.
If you have special requests, for example, that you only want to do phase 2 and not phase 1, please specify your needs when you contact me.
I highly recommend this package for most daughters with mother-daughter issues.
This package allows your to go through the 1st and 2nd phases which will help you undersand the social and family context of your relationship and move into deep healing.
If you want to schieve a comprehensive and hoslitic transformation, this package is for you.
Phase 3 is very crucial as it helps daughters take action to realize the kind of relationship you would like to form with your mother.
【Please note】The above prices are for online video sessions.
I highly recommend this package of six sessions for most daughters with mother-daughter issues.
This package allows your to go through a relatively complete 1st and 2nd phases which will help you undersand the social and family context of your relationship and move into deep healing.
If you want to achieve a comprehensive and hoslitic transformation, this package of nine sessions is for you.
Phase 3 is very crucial as it helps daughters take action to realize the kind of relationship you would like to form with your mother and other significant others.
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